​Fran Drescher Gay Ex Husband: Big Questions For Fran About Husband During Stonewall Community Foundation Vision Awards

Author: Michael StevensBy:
Staff Reporter
Jun. 20, 2015

Fran Drescher says her gay ex-husband had a lot of sex with her during their time together, according to The Huffington Post. The actress cleared up some big questions about her life and how she found out he was gay.

Drescher was being honored at the Stonewall Community Foundation Vision Awards this week. Fran thanked everyone including her “gay ex-husband” during a speech.

Honored for her advocacy in the gay community, The Nanny star quipped: “I have a gay art dealer, a gay dermatologist - not to mention my hairdresser,” she began. I have a gay ex-husband! People always say to me [of her ex], ‘How did you not know?’ He loves decorating and fashion and clothes, but we actually did have sex a lot,” she explained. “I didn’t know at the time, though, that in his mind he was f**king the bartender at Olive Garden.”

Drescher was married for 21 years to Peter Marc Jacobson, who came out after they split, and tried to stay with him. Fran still considers him her best friend.

Fran Drescher gay ex-husband is still her best friend

Fran Drescher gay ex-husband is still her best friend

“Now I’m actually married to this wonderful sophisticated straight man [Shiva Ayyadurai] who loves taking off my clothes, that PETA picks out for me,” she said.

Fran Drescher’s gay ex-husband and The Nanny might as well still be married. “We are very tight,” says Fran. Adds Jacobson: “We work together. Go out to eat. Travel together. I feel like I still have a wife.”

Jacobson revealed to Drescher two years after their 21-year marriage ended in 1999. “He got in touch with his true orientation,” Fran said. “I can’t blame him for that.”

She may sound pretty easygoing these days, but the 53-year-old admits that it took time-and a lot of therapy-to come to terms with the end of her marriage and the fact that Jacobson, with whom she co-created The Nanny, had stifled his homosexuality.

For years Drescher was unsettled by the revelation. Fran had a hard time understanding how he was gay or if he knew all along before they got married.

“I thought, Did he know he was gay when I was walking down the aisle? When we had a fight in high school and he said, ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you?’ ” she recalls. “This made me wonder what we ever really know.” Yet it didn’t break their friendship. “Our love is all-enduring and unconditional,” says Drescher. Pausing, she adds quietly, “All those years weren’t for nothing.”

Over the last decade, Drescher and Jacobson, have transitioned from spouses to best friends and, once again, producing partners. Fran and Peter even shared a fictionalized version of their story in a sitcom, Happily Divorced, which put a slapstick spin on their divorce and Jacobson’s coming out.

“It’s cathartic, putting it out there,” Drescher says of the show. “It helps me to be reflective.”

Figuring out their relationship has taken work. Jacobson confessed he might be bisexual some years into their marriage, but “he wanted to be together,” Drescher says, “and I didn’t want to punish him for being honest about his feelings.” And given their seemingly strong relationship (“We always thought we had a much better sex life than all of our friends,” she boasts), Fran ignored any potential red flags.

“Dressing me was a big thing; he was very into fashion,” she says. Fran Drescher’s gay ex-husband has a fascination when it comes to wardrobe choices. “But everything could be looked at from a different perspective. You see what you want to see.”

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