Talking To Kids About Lying. Talking to kids about growing up and how to prevent lying is actually a normal part of life. Children always test the boundaries by making up stories to protect their identities.
Lying is a hot topic. No parent likes to think that their kids do not tell the truth at all times. Yet most parents start to realize that children try to protect themselves and want to present themselves in the best light possible, even if a variation on the truth is required. My awakening occurred the first time I heard a glass-smashing crash and turned to find both my children pointing an accusing finger at the other.
Neither child owned up to it. However, it’s best to have a discussion on lying if your kids regularly wonâ€™t back away from a falsehood or if the frequency concerns you. You could always start the discussion as a general topic at dinner or while driving in the car.
Ask your children these questions and listen closely to the answers. Try to let your children do most of the talking so that you can better understand their perspective.
Your children will consider the reasons for lying. If you ask them “How do people feel after they tell a lie?,” they will consider the impact of lying on those that lie and on others.
Another question to your kids, “What does it feel like inside after a person has told a lie? Does it feel good or not so good?” This should make them think. They will consider alternatives to lying. Ideas could include taking responsibility for accidents and mistakes.
Grandmother would always say: “The truth shall set you free.”